Do You Celebrate Others’ Superpowers?

Oct 11, 2016 | Executive Coaching Blogs, Life Coaching Blogs, Team Training, Workplace Communication

One of my most treasured pieces of feedback was when a colleague said, “Wow, Stefanie, you’re a really good problem solver.” We were working at her desk troubleshooting a weird technology problem and I just started suggesting some logical steps to take to fix it. And, voilà, we fixed it!

Superman cape

Because of my life experiences and role models, I am really good at solving conundrums. And what can come along with being a problem solver is a tendency to see problems and fixes in every situation. When I’m present, it’s very authentic and given and received with grace (and I know when to shut my trap). When I’m less-than-present, it can come across as nitpicky and condescending. Because I’m a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, I have to be very conscious in choosing to connect with others instead of solving every (perceived or real) problem I might see.

Recently a client said, “I’m going to celebrate and focus on others’ superpowers.” after acknowledging that he was struggling with something very similar. I immediately got goosebumps.

I want to treat people like that. I want to see the best strengths and gifts that other people have to share. And acknowledge them.

If you were to focus on others’ superpowers, what could that mean for everyone you encounter?

I invite you to think about how you describe your colleagues, your board members, your family, your spouse. Do you focus on communicating their superpower? Do you even know what it is?

To take it a step further, do you see the super powers of:

  • that panhandler you see every day?
  • that [Insert the name of the presidential candidate you’re not voting for here.]
  • that colleague you can’t stand
  • that boss who did you wrong
  • your ex

I believe in my heart of hearts that we all have a superpower. It just gets covered up by stress, trauma, addiction, overwhelm, distraction, power, victimhood, etc.

It’s only through true connection, collaboration, and listening that we might be able to see the superpower that lie underneath.

Wonder Woman was my favorite superhero growing up. So I’ll be pretending to fly around in her invisible plane looking for others’ super human strengths! Now go put on your cape, and ask your coworker about hers!

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